Letting Go of Shame

After one of my Allies talks, a man shared with me that he grew up with porn sitting out in his home. It had been a struggle for a long season. Now he’s a dad walking free from the bondage to porn, but not from the bondage of shame.

Shame is a […]

Where Will Your Kids Turn?

Of the many things I experienced during my fifth-grade year, one event stands out. I was at a sleepover with girls from the neighborhood. It was late and the house was quiet as my friend stealthily led us into her kitchen. Our minds raced with curiosity as she retrieved a […]

New Year, New Perspectives

New Year’s resolutions. Do you love them? Hate them? Wish you could be better at keeping them? For me, simply resolving to do or not do certain things doesn’t typically work. Even setting goals (including SMART ones) can only go so far in taking me to the next level. But […]

Be an Ally to Your Kids | Ally Series Part 15

As an adult looking back on the images, experiences, and encounters that shaped your sexuality, does it seem like something was missing? As you became more aware of your sexuality, were you left to figure it out on your own? Did the lack of God-honoring information and the abundance of […]

Persevering in Prayer | Ally Series Part 8

It’s one thing to send an army to distant shores to protect our homeland. It’s another thing to see the enemy on our shores, advancing down our streets. In today’s sexualized culture, protecting kids goes hand in hand with equipping them to face the enemy.

The assault on sexuality today is […]

Allies Direct Their Kids | Ally Series Part 7

When I was younger, getting from point A to point B wasn’t as easy as asking Siri. I never heard “rerouting” when I made a wrong turn. My navigational system consisted of tiny markings on a large piece of paper. Because my parents didn’t want me to end up in […]

Obstacles | Ally Series Part 4

Becoming an ally to your children in our sexualized culture is one of the most important endeavors you’ll undertake. In fact, I would rank it right up there with ensuring they have the best education possible, teaching them respect for every person, and introducing them to Jesus. No pressure!

An ally […]

Why Become Your Child’s Ally | Ally Series Part 2

It’s not easy to grow up. As much as we may idealize childhood, in many ways childhood is something you just have to get through. Even the best families turn out adults broken and bruised by the world. God allows our trials, pain, and struggles to call us into a deeper […]

Those Uncomfortable Talks: Moving Past the Pause

Talking about sexual things can be uncomfortable. I know. As a child, I looked at the porn I found, yet couldn’t tell anyone. In college, I fit the description of a “good” Christian yet crossed many boundaries sexually. My closest friends had no idea, and I carried a lot of […]