After one of my Allies talks, a man shared with me that he grew up with porn sitting out in his home. It had been a struggle for a long season. Now he’s a dad walking free from the bondage to porn, but not from the bondage of shame.
Shame is a […]
Of the many things I experienced during my fifth-grade year, one event stands out. I was at a sleepover with girls from the neighborhood. It was late and the house was quiet as my friend stealthily led us into her kitchen. Our minds raced with curiosity as she retrieved a […]
This weekend Atlanta will host one of the world’s largest sporting events, the Super Bowl. Anti-trafficking groups are already on the ground identifying victims of sex trafficking and leading them to the freedom and resources they desperately need. Law enforcement personnel are working hard also.
Rescues will be made. Arrests will […]
New Year’s resolutions. Do you love them? Hate them? Wish you could be better at keeping them? For me, simply resolving to do or not do certain things doesn’t typically work. Even setting goals (including SMART ones) can only go so far in taking me to the next level. But […]
Five years ago I said goodbye to my anti-trafficking coworkers who’d become family to me. God knit our hearts together over rescues, hotline calls, and trainings filled with worship and tears. Now I run a nonprofit dedicated to sharing the good news of our sexuality and helping parents pass that […]
There was a palpable sense of a holy ground moment in the room. Through tears my friend brought his story of sexual sin before some close brothers in Christ. Except for the moment he’d confessed to his wife, it was probably the most vulnerable he’d ever been. Though the group […]
As an adult looking back on the images, experiences, and encounters that shaped your sexuality, does it seem like something was missing? As you became more aware of your sexuality, were you left to figure it out on your own? Did the lack of God-honoring information and the abundance of […]
If you’re a mom or a dad, have you ever considered how much information you’ll share with your kids over the eighteen or so years you have to parent them? Of the thousands of things you’ll teach them and model for them, a healthy view of sexuality is by far […]
One overarching goal of our Ally Series is to lead you to a God-honoring view of sex and sexuality. Sadly, most of us internalized a culture-driven view of it. It’s impossible to give away what we don’t have, and all of us desire for our kids to embrace God’s good […]
It’s one thing to send an army to distant shores to protect our homeland. It’s another thing to see the enemy on our shores, advancing down our streets. In today’s sexualized culture, protecting kids goes hand in hand with equipping them to face the enemy.
The assault on sexuality today is […]
When I was younger, getting from point A to point B wasn’t as easy as asking Siri. I never heard “rerouting” when I made a wrong turn. My navigational system consisted of tiny markings on a large piece of paper. Because my parents didn’t want me to end up in […]
Some of us never got “the talk” about sex and were left to figure it out on our own. Others of us got “the talk” but little else, leaving us embarrassed and with a lot of unspoken questions. Usually by the time “the talk” is delivered, a great deal of […]
Becoming an ally to your child in a sexualized culture will require a little soul-searching. Last week we looked at some common obstacles we will face on this journey. We all have wounds; we’ve all made mistakes; none of us feels totally equipped for this important role. We can avoid […]
Becoming an ally to your children in our sexualized culture is one of the most important endeavors you’ll undertake. In fact, I would rank it right up there with ensuring they have the best education possible, teaching them respect for every person, and introducing them to Jesus. No pressure!
An ally […]
For most of us, something sexual like porn came into our lives unexpectedly and before we knew it, we were changed by it. For many, porn use has become a compulsive or addictive struggle. Though we can quickly delete porn history from a device, it’s impossible to erase its effects […]
In our last post we discussed creating an atmosphere in your home where it’s okay to talk about anything. It’s your job as a parent to normalize conversations with your children about bodies, sex, and porn. You won’t do it perfectly, but you can do it and God will provide. […]
How can it be that the baby you nurtured and protected, the one you would literally give your life for, has a struggle with porn? You anticipated acne, a bad attitude, and late nights, but not porn. Just yesterday she was jumping rope and he was building with Legos. Most […]
Many Jesus-loving Christians—young and old, male and female—are falling prey to porn and the bondage it brings.
Their friends or family, often out of their own pain or frustration, may shame, rebuke, or offer pat suggestions like “Just pray more,” or “You need more faith.” Others say, “It’s an issue of […]
For me, addiction to pornography was bondage. The siren call was irresistible. Over and over again I went back to it and was unable to break away. (Later I would learn that viewing porn released chemicals in my brain that brought not only good feelings but also the need for higher […]
In my blog last week, I wrote about the confession of my addiction to pornography. The revelation, or confession, of my sin to God was the key to the gate of freedom. But I don’t think the gate really swung open for me until I began to repent. Revealing the […]
Several years ago my husband came to me with a difficult and shameful confession. He had been a user of porn.
Greg and I were not only husband and wife but also best friends for 28 years. He coached me as I gave birth to three children. He worked hard so I could […]
Are you truly connected to your mate, or are you a victim of creeping separateness?
Years ago when my husband and I were in the spring of our love we read A Severe Mercy by Sheldon Vanauken. Within its pages Greg and I found a love story that mirrored ours in many ways.