A few years ago, God led me to step away from anti-trafficking work and focus on issues related to sexuality and the Christian Church. At the time, porn use was the main culprit I saw, and I was well aware of how destructive it could be for men, women, and children. But since then God has shown me that in a broken world no one is exempt from the forces of evil working to destroy or cast doubt on God’s amazing design for sex and sexuality. He’s also shown me that all of us are sexually broken, that […]
It’s spring in Atlanta, and God’s handiwork is amazing to behold. I decided to adorn our back deck with some loveliness and enlisted the help of someone at a local nursery to put together a couple of potted arrangements. Our challenge was to find plants that could thrive on a scant four hours of sun each day and still fulfill my desire for color and beauty. Time will tell if we succeeded or not.
The plants I assembled are unique and beautiful in their own way. But they share a common need for nurture and care. They need to […]
I can still see those big brown eyes. “Anna”* called me a few years ago on New Year’s Eve as I was about to leave Out of Darkness (a rescue organization for women in prostitution) to start TrueNorth. I was surprised to see her name on my phone because she’d left the program we’d found for her and was presumably back in the life of prostitution. I’d prayed many prayers for her. That night, she wanted out. She was ready.
A volunteer and I picked her up at a McDonald’s and drove away. Her pimp stood nearby looking at us like […]
Seeing porn or experiencing something of a sexual nature during childhood is a given for all of us, and your children aren’t exempt. Because we are sexual beings, seeing a sexual image or experiencing something sexual is significant in a child’s life and the brain stores memory of it.
I can still remember things from my childhood related to sexuality that have remained with me for decades, even though I have forgotten many other things I experienced around the same time.
What is your earliest memory of something sexual? At the time you probably didn’t have a word or a category for […]
After one of my Allies talks, a man shared with me that he grew up with porn sitting out in his home. It had been a struggle for a long season. Now he’s a dad walking free from the bondage to porn, but not from the bondage of shame.
Shame is a wretched foe that can keep us from living authentically. It can stymie our spiritual growth. It can keep us from intimacy in relationships. Shame can also impact our ability to lead our kids toward a God-honoring view of sexuality.
Shame. The great inhibitor. A silencer. A foe. Even little ones can […]
Of the many things I experienced during my fifth-grade year, one event stands out. I was at a sleepover with girls from the neighborhood. It was late and the house was quiet as my friend stealthily led us into her kitchen. Our minds raced with curiosity as she retrieved a manila envelope from on top of the refrigerator. To my surprise, it held an image of a man and woman having sex. I’d never seen anything like it, and in an instant, something happened that was outside of my control. The pornographic image imprinted on my brain, and it would […]