Healing Words for Wounded Hearts

Words can be powerful for both good and evil whether we are 9 or 99.

When I was about 12 years old, I was walking home from the pool with a friend who was acting like anything but a friend. She began teasing me about my body, and even after almost 50 years I can still hear her taunts. Her words were unkind, uncalled for, and untrue. But I was a child, and I had the perspective of a child.

Lies took hold in my young heart causing me to doubt my worth. And sadly, I didn’t feel safe enough […]

By |April 3rd, 2020|

Rainbow Cookies, Read Alouds, and the Times that Shape Us

Our times shape us. Sometimes the stories of others who’ve endured hard times shape us too.

During the Holocaust, Corrie ten Boom and her family courageously hid Jews in their home and eventually became prisoners of war, several of them dying in concentration camps. Corrie survived and went on to become a purveyor of the faith which sustained her, even forgiving one of the prison guards who had been so cruel.

Years ago, I read The Hiding Place, the account of Corrie and her family. God used that book to shape me and teach me some invaluable lessons that I […]

By |March 26th, 2020|

Halftime Shows, Children, and Teachable Moments

We live in interesting times. While #MeToo has united women across the world under the banner of sexual abuse or inappropriate sexual encounters, many female entertainers still believe it’s empowering to sexualize themselves. The halftime show for Super Bowl LIV was far from empowering to women and sent very damaging messages to today’s girls and boys.

I’m reaching out to those who might want to use the performance by Jennifer Lopez and Shakira as a teachable moment or perhaps to be better prepared when the next teachable moment arises.

For those who didn’t see the show, suffice it to say […]

By |February 3rd, 2020|

The Top 5 Reasons You Should Engage with Your Kids on Sexual Topics

Remember middle school and the frequent shrieks of delight or laughter emanating from classmates? We all know how excited middle schoolers can get! Imagine my shock when a youth pastor recently told me that some of the noises coming from middle schoolers today sound more like the sound track of a porn video. “Moaning” is what many kids are doing (or hearing), and it’s really disturbing on many levels.

On a related note, some girls are finding school rather toxic because of the ways in which porn is affecting interactions with many of their male classmates. In an article […]

By |January 13th, 2020|

Want to Become an Ally to Your Kids in Today’s Sexualized Culture? Let Your Shepherd Lead You.

A highlight of 2019 for me came in the form of a letter. A young woman wrote to share how grateful she was for the work of TrueNorth and how it had impacted her life, her marriage, and her family. Her husband was struggling with porn use and trying to walk free of it. His struggle had left her with feelings of inadequacy, frustration, and hopelessness. He was in counseling. She felt very alone.

Through resources we share on our website and through our Allies event for parents, this couple found support to help them move forward […]

By |January 1st, 2020|

Sexuality and Our Journey Toward Redemption

One of my favorite things to do is to share life-changing truths about sexuality with parents. I do this through a live presentation (Allies: Parents & Kids Navigating a Sexualized Culture) and through my blog. Some of my friends don’t really understand why I do what I do or how I could enjoy it. Honestly, I wonder sometimes why God picked me: the girl who made lots of mistakes, the one who was petrified of public speaking, someone who is old enough to be a mom to most in my audience.

But people have […]

By |November 14th, 2019|