When I was a young girl, the sexual revolution in America was in full swing. Playboy magazine was launched in the early 1950s, and within a couple of decades, it ushered Americans (and in many ways the world) into new and skewed ways of thinking about sexuality that continue to this day. I’ve never known a world without sexual images and destructive sexual ideology. But the sexual messages I internalized in the past do not begin to compare with what I now know of God’s covenantal love for us displayed within our sexuality.
Children come into the world as sexual beings, but they have no concept of what it means to be a sexual being. Obviously a toddler or a child isn’t physically or emotionally mature enough for sex, but kids are born with sexual body parts and can experience sexual type feelings. One couple shared the story of their young son who began covering his penis when he changed clothes in the same room with his sister. When his parents asked him why he did this, he said, “It pops up when it sees a girl!”
A few years ago, God led me to step away from anti-trafficking work and focus on issues related to sexuality and the Christian Church. At the time, porn use was the main culprit I saw, and I was well aware of how destructive it could be for men, women, and children. But since then God has shown me that in a broken world no one is exempt from the forces of evil working to destroy or cast doubt on God’s amazing design for sex and sexuality. He’s also shown me that all of us are sexually broken, that […]
It’s spring in Atlanta, and God’s handiwork is amazing to behold. I decided to adorn our back deck with some loveliness and enlisted the help of someone at a local nursery to put together a couple of potted arrangements. Our challenge was to find plants that could thrive on a scant four hours of sun each day and still fulfill my desire for color and beauty. Time will tell if we succeeded or not.
The plants I assembled are unique and beautiful in their own way. But they share a common need for nurture and care. They need to […]
I can still see those big brown eyes. “Anna”* called me a few years ago on New Year’s Eve as I was about to leave Out of Darkness (a rescue organization for women in prostitution) to start TrueNorth. I was surprised to see her name on my phone because she’d left the program we’d found for her and was presumably back in the life of prostitution. I’d prayed many prayers for her. That night, she wanted out. She was ready.
A volunteer and I picked her up at a McDonald’s and drove away. Her pimp stood nearby looking at us like […]
Seeing porn or experiencing something of a sexual nature during childhood is a given for all of us, and your children aren’t exempt. Because we are sexual beings, seeing a sexual image or experiencing something sexual is significant in a child’s life and the brain stores memory of it.
I can still remember things from my childhood related to sexuality that have remained with me for decades, even though I have forgotten many other things I experienced around the same time.
What is your earliest memory of something sexual? At the time you probably didn’t have a word or a category for […]