We live in interesting times. While #MeToo has united women across the world under the banner of sexual abuse or inappropriate sexual encounters, many female entertainers still believe it’s empowering to sexualize themselves. The halftime show for Super Bowl LIV was far from empowering to women and sent very damaging messages to today’s girls and boys.
I’m reaching out to those who might want to use the performance by Jennifer Lopez and Shakira as a teachable moment or perhaps to be better prepared when the next teachable moment arises.
For those who didn’t see the show, suffice it to say […]
Remember middle school and the frequent shrieks of delight or laughter emanating from classmates? We all know how excited middle schoolers can get! Imagine my shock when a youth pastor recently told me that some of the noises coming from middle schoolers today sound more like the sound track of a porn video. “Moaning” is what many kids are doing (or hearing), and it’s really disturbing on many levels.
On a related note, some girls are finding school rather toxic because of the ways in which porn is affecting interactions with many of their male classmates. In an article […]
A highlight of 2019 for me came in the form of a letter. A young woman wrote to share how grateful she was for the work of TrueNorth and how it had impacted her life, her marriage, and her family. Her husband was struggling with porn use and trying to walk free of it. His struggle had left her with feelings of inadequacy, frustration, and hopelessness. He was in counseling. She felt very alone.
Through resources we share on our website and through our Allies event for parents, this couple found support to help them move forward […]
One of my favorite things to do is to share life-changing truths about sexuality with parents. I do this through a live presentation (Allies: Parents & Kids Navigating a Sexualized Culture) and through my blog. Some of my friends don’t really understand why I do what I do or how I could enjoy it. Honestly, I wonder sometimes why God picked me: the girl who made lots of mistakes, the one who was petrified of public speaking, someone who is old enough to be a mom to most in my audience.
When I first saw porn at a sleepover around age 11, I didn’t even consider talking with my parents about it – I hid. I was so ashamed. I probably feared I’d get in trouble. I was thinking as most children would who’ve never talked about sexual topics with their parents. I didn’t think they’d understand or have empathy. I felt very alone, afraid, yet curious about what I’d seen and how it made me feel. Can you relate to this experience?
In our last post, we invited you to consider the various influences […]
Several months ago I presented my Allies talk to a group of parents. I met one of the attendees a couple of weeks later. She thanked me for coming and told me that on the way home that night she and her husband each shared some things from their past related to sex that they’d never told anyone before. She was grateful for the ways my words had opened the door for that conversation and paved the way for many more.
Sexuality is a central and integral part of being human. […]