As an adult looking back on the images, experiences, and encounters that shaped your sexuality, does it seem like something was missing? As you became more aware of your sexuality, were you left to figure it out on your own? Did the lack of God-honoring information and the abundance of […]
Today’s teens live in a hyper-sexualized world that most parents can’t fully comprehend. Even for teens who don’t watch porn or aren’t having sex, the air around them is super-charged with sexual imagery, drama, and messaging that falls far outside of God-honoring sexuality. Many teens today are internalizing a destructive, […]
God Made All of Me: A Book to Help Children Protect Their Bodies | Book Review | Ally Series Part 12
Becoming an ally to your child in a sexualized culture is one of the most important jobs you have as a parent, and it’s not that difficult. Through our Ally Series we’ve shared some of our best information to equip you. Today and over the next few weeks we’ll introduce […]
Sexuality is powerful. In profound ways it connects the eyes, heart, mind, will, and emotions of a person. Stewarding our sexuality well is a life-long endeavor which actually begins in childhood. We live in a very sexualized culture, yet sexuality is generally a taboo topic, especially in the Christian church. We need […]
One overarching goal of our Ally Series is to lead you to a God-honoring view of sex and sexuality. Sadly, most of us internalized a culture-driven view of it. It’s impossible to give away what we don’t have, and all of us desire for our kids to embrace God’s good […]
There are so many dangers in today’s sexualized culture, and working to protect your family can be daunting. You need God’s wisdom to guide you, His grace to sustain you, and a few allies of your own to help you.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and […]
It’s one thing to send an army to distant shores to protect our homeland. It’s another thing to see the enemy on our shores, advancing down our streets. In today’s sexualized culture, protecting kids goes hand in hand with equipping them to face the enemy.
The assault on sexuality today is […]
When I was younger, getting from point A to point B wasn’t as easy as asking Siri. I never heard “rerouting” when I made a wrong turn. My navigational system consisted of tiny markings on a large piece of paper. Because my parents didn’t want me to end up in […]
Some of us never got “the talk” about sex and were left to figure it out on our own. Others of us got “the talk” but little else, leaving us embarrassed and with a lot of unspoken questions. Usually by the time “the talk” is delivered, a great deal of […]
Becoming an ally to your child in a sexualized culture will require a little soul-searching. Last week we looked at some common obstacles we will face on this journey. We all have wounds; we’ve all made mistakes; none of us feels totally equipped for this important role. We can avoid […]
Becoming an ally to your children in our sexualized culture is one of the most important endeavors you’ll undertake. In fact, I would rank it right up there with ensuring they have the best education possible, teaching them respect for every person, and introducing them to Jesus. No pressure!
An ally […]
We live in a culture that in many ways is amazingly good and at the same time can be terribly destructive. I believe that most of us would agree our culture has grown increasingly sexual. Advances in technology continue to bring more opportunities for sexual encounters and experiences that could […]
It’s not easy to grow up. As much as we may idealize childhood, in many ways childhood is something you just have to get through. Even the best families turn out adults broken and bruised by the world. God allows our trials, pain, and struggles to call us into a deeper […]
Porn finds kids. It found me at a sleepover when I was ten. My friend’s parents thought their porn images would be safe on top of the refrigerator in a manila envelope, but they were sorely wrong. Today porn finds young children at an alarming rate and often with dire […]
Someone wishing for a phone or tablet? Santa’s got a few questions first.
A friend told me she wasn’t so sure she’d be giving her middle-schooler a phone with internet just yet. She didn’t think he was ready to have the world at his fingertips. Within a generation, we have progressed […]
Talking about sexual things can be uncomfortable. I know. As a child, I looked at the porn I found, yet couldn’t tell anyone. In college, I fit the description of a “good” Christian yet crossed many boundaries sexually. My closest friends had no idea, and I carried a lot of […]
In our last post we discussed creating an atmosphere in your home where it’s okay to talk about anything. It’s your job as a parent to normalize conversations with your children about bodies, sex, and porn. You won’t do it perfectly, but you can do it and God will provide. […]
I’m the third of nine children, and my entire life I dreamed of being a mother. My mom kept bringing babies home for me to play with, dress, feed, and love…. living, breathing baby dolls. Mothering is in my blood.
When I finally received the news that I was pregnant it […]
How can it be that the baby you nurtured and protected, the one you would literally give your life for, has a struggle with porn? You anticipated acne, a bad attitude, and late nights, but not porn. Just yesterday she was jumping rope and he was building with Legos. Most […]
Many Jesus-loving Christians—young and old, male and female—are falling prey to porn and the bondage it brings.
Their friends or family, often out of their own pain or frustration, may shame, rebuke, or offer pat suggestions like “Just pray more,” or “You need more faith.” Others say, “It’s an issue of […]
For me, addiction to pornography was bondage. The siren call was irresistible. Over and over again I went back to it and was unable to break away. (Later I would learn that viewing porn released chemicals in my brain that brought not only good feelings but also the need for higher […]
In my blog last week, I wrote about the confession of my addiction to pornography. The revelation, or confession, of my sin to God was the key to the gate of freedom. But I don’t think the gate really swung open for me until I began to repent. Revealing the […]
Several years ago my husband came to me with a difficult and shameful confession. He had been a user of porn.
Greg and I were not only husband and wife but also best friends for 28 years. He coached me as I gave birth to three children. He worked hard so I could […]