Recently a friend forwarded a Fox News article that asserted five ways that porn was good for us.¹ It was directed to women. I guess they figured most men didn’t need convincing to head over to their favorite porn site. Statistically, a lot of men use porn, but a growing number of women also fall prey to it. In 2016 one porn site alone logged 4.6 billion hours of porn watched—that’s over five thousand centuries.² Sounds pretty hopeless, but it’s not, because we were created for something much greater. I’d […]
If you missed Part One of this important message, please read it first (link). I shared the first five points including the need for prayer and possibly an apology, and what that might look like. I explained how important it is to identify with your child’s struggle in some way. We’ve all seen porn, and we all know what shame feels like. It’s important also to continually affirm your child’s worth, no matter what they may do, and to connect deeply in a variety of ways to nurture his or her heart. Once you’ve worked to create […]
How can it be that the baby you nurtured and protected, the one you would literally give your life for, has a struggle with porn? You anticipated acne, a bad attitude, and late nights, but not porn. Just yesterday she was jumping rope and he was building with Legos. Most teens who are addicted to porn haven’t even had their first kiss, yet feel trapped in an endless, virtual world of sex. It’s like a deep, dark hole that keeps sucking them further in.
If you are aware of your child’s struggle, consider it a blessing that it’s no longer in […]
Many Jesus-loving Christians—young and old, male and female—are falling prey to porn and the bondage it brings.
Their friends or family, often out of their own pain or frustration, may shame, rebuke, or offer pat suggestions like “Just pray more,” or “You need more faith.” Others say, “It’s an issue of the heart.” While remarks from well-meaning fellow Christians may be true, they’re often not helpful. And while a struggle with sexual sin such as porn use may be a heart issue, it’s also a head issue.
To learn how porn affects the brain and why it’s so addictive, I consulted someone […]
For many years we have had an old antique bedside table in our bedroom. I wouldn’t say it was particularly valuable or beautiful. The top was built out of five pieces of oak wood glued together to make a wide top. The finish was worn and showed numerous water rings, cuts, deep scratches, and large nail holes where repair had been attempted over the years. The top was cracked in two at one of the glue joints and it was not level. The legs were very rickety. But it stood like that beside our bed for almost twenty years.
For me, addiction to pornography was bondage. The siren call was irresistible. Over and over again I went back to it and was unable to break away. (Later I would learn that viewing porn released chemicals in my brain that brought not only good feelings but also the need for higher doses of those chemicals to get the same feelings again.) Even though I was a believer in Christ, I had taken on the yoke of slavery to sin through porn.
Galatians 5:1 says, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves […]