“Only love spoken here.”

Several years ago I began working for an organization on a love mission to rescue women from those who would use, abuse, and discard them through sex trafficking. We would take them to our safe home, show them love, and point them to God who longed to redeem their stories and heal their hearts. Recovery is hard. Life is messy. Wounds are deep and may take years to heal, or even uncover. My pragmatic heart struggled under the heaviness of the mission. There were so many to rescue and the reality was that new victims would replace them and the cycle would continue. Those who bought, used, and objectified them needed rescue of a different kind, a rescue of the heart.

Our early vision to end sex trafficking was huge and unattainable, and God began to whittle it down to this:

Get to the root.

Expose the lies of sexual sin including porn use, and reveal the true enemy behind them

Teach how the brain responds to sex and porn and how addiction can grow

Show compassion for those who struggle

Tell those bound by sexual sin that they are worthy of love and not alone

Share stories of confession, repentance, minds renewed, lives redeemed, and hearts restored

Guide them to resources, community, and counseling

Watch the shame fall away

Help couples and churches talk about sex more authentically

Guide families into better, earlier conversations with their children about bodies, sex, and porn

Stop the cycle of shame, objectification, abuse, and porn use

“Only love spoken here.”

Such comforting words: You will be loved here. You will be heard here. You will be protected here. You will be honored here. You will find truth here. God sees us only through eyes of love. And though God’s word may be hard to accept sometimes, it becomes easier as we understand His heart of love behind them.

Along the road of life our innocence is crushed. Someone will use, abuse, wound us, or expose us to sexual things. We live in a flawed world broken by sin where hurting people hurt people. Though early sexual experiences happen outside of our control (for example, we encounter something sexual or are abused), chemicals are released in our young brains and we feel ashamed, so we hide. But we’re also intrigued and can desire the arousal feeling again. It can be confusing and hard to understand or manage the feelings and emotions. We believe the lies of the enemy that we are worthless, hopeless, or unlovable. Lies turn into identity statements. We doubt God’s love and His power over sin.

“As a result, we are no longer to be children, tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, by craftiness in deceitful scheming; but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ.” Ephesians 4:14-15 NASB

TrueNorth is on a mission to speak God’s truth in love over sexual wounds, sexual sin, and porn use. We do this through our website, social media, and speaking engagements. I’m currently writing a book which we pray God will use to change families and lives.

We equip believers with truth from science about brain chemicals related to sex and with truth from God’s word about His purposes for sex and His loving, redemptive plan for sinners.

Will you join us on our mission to counteract the lies surrounding bodies, sex, and porn in our culture by speaking the truth in love? Here’s how you can do that:

“Only love spoken here.”

Love is not always easy or comfortable but in this culture, God’s love is the greatest hope we have.

 

Anne Kerr

Founder and CEO of TrueNorth Freedom Project in Atlanta, Georgia. annek@truenorthfp.org