Grace for the Secret Sins: Trusting the Keeper of Your Heart with the Hard Things

Several years ago my husband came to me with a difficult and shameful confession. He had been a user of porn.

Greg and I were not only husband and wife but also best friends for 28 years. He coached me as I gave birth to three children. He worked hard so I could stay at home with the kids and never complained about the things we could not afford. He was the first person I would run to for perspective when the world crashed around me. He filled my love tank over and over again. We shared everything, I thought. But through all […]

A Living Hope

“The one thing I didn’t have when I was addicted to pornography was hope.”

My husband recently spoke these words to a group of supporters of TrueNorth. God set Greg free from his bondage to pornography in a powerful way in the fall of 2013. I learned of his addiction a few months after God rescued him from it, and his journey toward restoration and wholeness became our journey of transparency, healing, and hope.

Casual porn use can escalate into repeated porn use, affairs, purchasing sex, and abuse. Addiction is multi-layered and different for everyone. Porn addicts are not on a quest […]

Give the Gift of Deeper Connection

Are you truly connected to your mate, or are you a victim of creeping separateness?

Years ago when my husband and I were in the spring of our love we read A Severe Mercy by Sheldon Vanauken. Within its pages Greg and I found a love story that mirrored ours in many ways.

Connection for us then was as natural as the perennial crepe myrtles that lined the streets of Georgia Tech where we strolled hand in hand. It was effortless. We longed to be together and used any excuse to talk. When Greg studied in Paris during our senior year the days between […]

We Become What We Behold: Jesus’ Loving Words for Victoria on the Runway

Soon Victoria’s Secret models will don wings and walk the runway in the annual fashion show, considered by many to be the pinnacle of success in the modeling industry. Millions will watch. Many will applaud them for their achievement in a cut-throat industry, seeing them as examples of what hard work can produce. But most male viewers will reduce them to mere objects to consume, seeing only bodies displayed for comparison, lust, and sport. Though the world may call them “angels,” Jesus calls them Beloved, and knows their true worth.

I believe Jesus would have some insights for Victoria, and for women and […]

Meet TrueNorth Freedom Project: Love Spoken Here

“Only love spoken here.”

Several years ago I began working for an organization on a love mission to rescue women from those who would use, abuse, and discard them through sex trafficking. We would take them to our safe home, show them love, and point them to God who longed to redeem their stories and heal their hearts. Recovery is hard. Life is messy. Wounds are deep and may take years to heal, or even uncover. My pragmatic heart struggled under the heaviness of the mission. There were so many to rescue and the reality was that new victims would replace […]